我说，“Wow，你过线了，你这样说其实完全忽视了我们小孩和家长的努力。我家小孩从3岁起我们每天给她读3本书的时候，你看到我们的努力了吗？这世界上有勤奋的小孩，有不努力的小孩，有努力的家长，也有不努力的家长；学校只占小孩教育的30%，家庭占70%，我希望你认识到让每个学生都有同样的outcome是不现实的。”他说，“这个我不同意，正是因为有些孩子家庭支持不足，我们就需要给他们更多的支持。”我说，“你这个属于逆向歧视，美国的价值观就是reward the hard working，你这样是reward non hard working，歧视hard working的人。”他说，“我不明白帮助这些学生怎么就影响hard working的人了？”我说，“很简单，资源是有限的，钱是有限的，好的老师也是有限的，你把更多的资源分配给了non hard working kids，那那些努力学习的小孩和家庭就是受到了伤害。”他说，“你不是Issaquah学区的，你的想法还是回去和你的BSD说吧，你的意见在这里不被接收！谈话结束！”
当我们两三个华人爸爸跟同桌的那个白人妈妈激烈地争论所举的个例情况到底能不能被认定为系统性机构性的不公平的时候，Harlan拉偏架扣帽子说，中国爸爸们在欺负白人妈妈，难道因为她是女性，你们男性就不尊重？“Maybe it’s women thing！”气氛立马变得很尴尬，华人爸爸们差点愣住了。这时那位白人妈妈还打圆场说，“我知道咱们情绪都很激动，情绪激动的时候就那样（互相打断对方的话争论了）。”我心想我是女的，你总不能欺负我了吧，就出来抗议说，“恰恰是你一直在打断他们谈话！”他也就没再说什么。可见Harlan容不得质疑，他甚至都拿不出基本的对有不同意见者的尊重态度。
我们桌一个西班牙来的妈妈在学校志愿扶持拉丁美裔孩子，说孩子们reading level低跟在家里没人给读书有关，她提出家庭付出的问题，比如墨西哥家庭或黑人家庭家长给孩子读书读得少，造成孩子到二三年级还跟不上学校要求的reading level。同桌的华人家长们都同意这个。她呼吁学区找出造成gap的根本原因，她跟board member Lisa提出来这一点，Lisa说这个正是学监Ron要做的事情。我后来弄明白了学区根本没有对原因进行分析，只是看到因为种族间有差距，所以就要搞equity。
我也是第三桌的，上面小结已经写得很详细了，我稍微补充一下。墨西哥妈妈说要role model of the same ethnicity。 中国家长反对说：一方面我们强调不要有种族歧视，要看人不看肤色，另一面又说小孩要同种族的role model，这也是歧视。中国家长还提到增加diversity 可能引起新的不公平, 但被Lisa淡化为keep the same hiring bar. 我个人经验教训是应该先说结论，再论证。被她们总结一下很容易变味……
我也在Lisa 那桌。在问到学区里存在什么systematic institutional inequity时，Lisa didn’t go into detail but only said there are places missing certain culture content/representation. They looked at discipline data, graduation data and saw inequity.
白人妈妈表示要Equity 而不是equality.西裔爸爸说需要extra tools like ELL to make some kids successful. I mentioned in past years ISF was already providing extra help programs to lower achieving kids, such as Mia who witnessed in ISF luncheon and breakfast she was in a 50 kids need help group once transferred to ISD that she started like to go to school and is happy where she is now. Lisa summarized we still need tools (via equity)
I did mention all the focus now are on struggling kids but missed highly capable group while school teachers are too busy and they are not interested in helping kids register in math or science competitions.Need to hire more counselors in high schools to give more attention to each student. 西裔爸爸object using highly capable, said,“Do you mean other kids are lower capable?” (He obviously doesn’t know Hicap is just a term used by Washington state as an equivalent to gifted program.)
As we are discussing hiring retaining diversity teachers. 穆斯林、西裔妈妈希望学校雇diversified teachers to make minority kids wanted to go to school, to have a role model of their own kind. 我说Based on ISOP data of our district, students and teacher ethnicity ratio, the number of Asian teacher is lowest , however, I don’t feel the school district needs to hire more Asian teachers. I only care about school hiring best teachers available. Teacher is a profession paid very low, so it is not easy to find good teachers. When SD chooses among candidates, the best should be chosen, not because of race factor.
Similarly as Anna’s example of choosing a Clinic to visit, I would choose to go to the clinic with best doctors, instead of clinic have most diversified stuff. Another Chinese American parent gave an example of the Florida bridge built by a most diversified engineer team collapsed shortly after it was built, which Lisa nodded to agree.
But on the bookkeeping note, near the bullet point, Loma only added an underlined “qualified” in front of hiring diversified workforce. Some Chinese dad said he himself set role model of other races for his children, not necessarily of his own race. He also expressed concern when other raced teachers are hired, how can SD ensure they will not show favoritism to students of their own race. I also brought up the suggestion that teachers get trained how not to show favoritism to certain students and be inclusive and fair to students of all races.
At end of meeting, I spoke to Lisa in person to suggest adding the early Chinese immigrants’ contribution to the US development, as well as the unfair treatments they received such as there being not one single Chinese railroad worker included in the photo taken at the Cross Continent Railroad Completion Ceremony, the Chinese railway workers’ sacrifice, contributions and industriousness not being recognized and appreciated, and the severe impacts of the Chinese exclusion Act on them and their families and future generations. Even though the Chinese in America was the only ethnic group that was refused to become American citizens throughout the US history, and they suffered such severe systemic racial discriminations, my own high school child never learnt anything from his school curriculum that can make him proud of his root or these Chinese pioneers. It does matter as to whether the race that a certain group of kids belong to are respected and is what they are proud of at schools.
I also stressed that school all subject teachers including music and PE teachers as well as sports coaches get cultural competence training to be fair to students of all races, and not to play favoritism to any race. Based on my own experience, Asian boys are more likely to be ignored in sports by sports coaches. Lisa agreed and said it is a stereotype that Asian kids are only good at academics; they should also be well represented in sports team, band, etc.
Overall, they said they got our input and concerns to put into the next plan and future detail implementation.
我记录一下22号晚上我在5号桌的经历。因为参加女儿学校活动，我进会场已经是7点半分组讨论已经开始。我被领到5号桌，正在讨论提纲1和2。 桌上加我一共9个人。我坐下后左手边是一个中年白男，右手边是Board Director Suzanne Weaver。 Suzanne边上是一个学区的工作人员，感觉像是西裔。接着是3个男同胞，然后是一个年轻点的白人女的，最后是学区equity group的Rosann Rankin。Rosann已经在记录大家的对话要点，把它们写在白板纸上。会后想想其实如果以后有机会， 应该我们主动要求记录，这样就是我们最后去公开陈述。
我听了几个发言之后提出，1A那句话和整篇提纲不融合，其他的要点都是可以执行而且可监控的，1A说的是个人的认知。另外所谓到底有没有systematic and institutional inequity存在本身就是一个debatable的观点，Rosann写下的笔记上也有问题when and what?在systematic and institutional inequity上。所以我认为应该这句从整个提纲里删除。
Suzanne Weaver听完我的话后直接回复，这个观点是我们school board都认同的，她的原话是，“Some other school board may not think so, but we do. So we are keeping it”。 她旁边的学区人员有点打圆场的意思马上接话说，也许我们可以把这句话移到1的开篇里， 因为我们认为存在systematic and institutional inequity所以我们要做下面的a,b,c,d,e条目。从这段对话我就感觉到Suzanne Weaver是非常站在Equity那边的。